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Internal vs External Validation

December 2018 by Tanja Mitton
A riding coach and NLP master coach and mindset coach with over 25 years of coaching and competition experience, Tanja Mitton conducts clinics throughout Australia and recently published 'It Takes Two To Tango' to help people unlock their own and their horse's potential.

Do you know when you are doing a good job or do you rely on others telling you that you are?

In my experience, many riders don’t trust themselves and, therefore, keep looking and craving other people’s praise.

This in itself is not a bad thing, it just becomes hard when you are in the wrong environment or the people around you have ideas that are different to the ones you have.

Craving external validation generally means that we are not sure and we don’t trust ourselves enough. Thus, we look for confirmation from others.

This is where craving external validation can come up: