Limiting beliefs are something we all suffer from. A limiting belief develops over time when we think we can’t do something, that we aren’t good enough to achieve a goal or that we think everyone is better than we are. Limiting beliefs can be crippling when we let them take over or they can become empowering when we use them as fuel for self-development.
So many people get overwhelmed and stuck in their present situation they can’t seem to find a way out and forward anymore. Getting stuck is something that develops in our mind and has nothing to do with the reality of life we live in.
Stress is something that most of us live with every single day and often we are not even aware that we are stressed; that’s until you get on your horse. We have all heard the saying “your horse is your mirror”, and that is absolutely true, particularly when it comes to stress and reflecting our tension.
Have you ever heard someone say: “You sound like your mother?” The environment we grow up in and, particularly our parents, are the people who first influence us. This influence generally has a profound impact on our life and shapes, to a large degree, the person we are going to become - either similar to them or the total opposite.
So many riders lose their confidence, due to a negative experience or their horse’s behavioural problems. We often look at what the horse did thad led to the rider’s loss of confidence, but have you ever thought of that your horse may have lost his or her confidence first?
Making time to ride or to do anything for yourself is often a difficult task for many. Especially for us women. As women, making time for ourselves is often a foreign concept, but this is exactly what we need to do.
Self-sabotage is when we have a goal but, instead of taking the right steps to go towards the goal, we take steps to take us away from it. Self-sabotage is generally always linked to limiting beliefs.
Things are neither easy nor hard; they are just the way we perceive them. It is commonly accepted the things we are good at are considered easy, while the things we are not so good at or haven’t mastered yet are considered hard. I would like to challenge this belief.
Setting goals is essential in order to achieve success. Goal setting is like creating a road map that serves as a guide to follow the path that sets us up to achieving what we are aiming for. Too often, we set goals, but never end up achieving them.
So many riders are struggling with confidence and, on their journey of discovery, they realise in order to become a more confident rider, they have to become a more confident person first. In my journal, ‘The Riders Mindset Pocket Guide’, I have identified three important steps to increase your confidence - not just in your riding, but overall in life. Clear goal setting
I believe many riders struggle because they haven’t identified their purpose. Purpose is knowing why you are doing what you are doing. Your purpose is your why - it gives you drive and keeps the fire going within you. Your purpose also helps you to stay on track and follow your path, rather than get sidetracked by someone else’s path.